A book published in Spain is getting strong reactions from both sides as it climbs up the best-seller charts. “Get Married and Be Submissive” by Costanza Miriano was published by the Catholic Arbishopric of Granada. The author says it is based on the teachings of St. Paul.
The book, first published in Italy where it became a best-seller, advises newly-wed women to learn how to be submissive to their husband.
Cathie Adams, president of Texas Eagle Forum, says the women who follow the message in the book are courageous for standing up for their values.
Feminists are outraged by the success of the book, calling for it to be banned and boycotted. Claiming that it promotes domestic violence, some women’s groups in Europe are considering legal action to stop publication.
“Being submissive doesn’t mean something negative,” Cathie Adams told KTRH News. “It’s something very positive. It’s saying ‘I am going to be a team with this man that I am choosing to spend the rest of my life with.’”
The book says that if the husband complains about his brides cooking skills, she should take the criticism in cheerful stride. She should tell him she agrees, and that she will learn. The author says when a husband sees such humility, sweetness, and desire to change, it will make him want to change his ways too.
Adams says there is a reason for using the word “submissive.”
“It is really a portraying of an umbrella of protection over home and family.”
Ms. Adams acceptance of the premise of the book may not reflect attitudes of all Texans. The topic may bring to mind this old Texas joke:
Kyle Married a Girl from Texas
Three men were sitting together bragging about how they had set their new wives straight on their duties.
Martin had married a woman from Pennsylvania and bragged that he had told his wife she was going to do all the dishes and house cleaning that needed done at their house.
Martin said that it took a couple of days, but on the third day he came home to a clean house and the dishes were all washed and put away.
Audie had married a woman from South Carolina. He bragged that he had given his wife orders that she was to do all the cleaning, dishes, and cooking.
Audie told them that the first day he didn't see any results, but the next day it was better. By the third day, his house was clean, the dishes was done, and he had a huge dinner on the table.
The third man, Kyle, had married a Texas girl. He boasted that he told her his house was to be cleaned, dishes washed, the cooking done and laundry washed and this was all her responsibility.
Kyle responded that the first day he didn't see anything and the second day he didn't see anything but by the third day some of the swelling had gone down so he could see a little out of his left eye.